Here’s to a Happy New You!

A “Happy New You” is all you need to have for a “Happy New Year.” So, “How do you create a happy new you?” It may be easier than you think. If you’ve wanted to add more happiness in your life but have felt stuck on zero, here are a few ideas to spur you on. They can give you that extra motivation you’ve hoped for.

Physically, we replace all of our 50-75 trillion cells on a regular schedule. For example, skin cells die and are replaced every hour. Each type of cell is replaced in its own perfect timing. Whether we are aware of it or not, we are constantly changing and creating a completely new body about every seven years. Meeting our basic physical survival needs is usually doable and gives us some reasons to be happy.

To improve your physical condition, see yourself exactly as you desire to be. Include the health of your cells and body, where you live, the car you drive, what you do with your family and friends, playing or resting in the sunshine and your job that allows you to eat delicious, healthy meals. Talk about it, read about it, find pictures and words in magazines or on the internet and arrange them attractively on paper, a display board or in a power point or video presentation.

Review your visioning project at least daily. Express your gratitude for how quickly and easily these things appear in your life.

Our emotions can easily lead us away from happiness. When we feel fearful, abused or unaccepted, we sense there’s something wrong with us or with other people. Either way, we’re unhappy and dissatisfied. We want to feel better, and so we start looking for where to place blame or how to retaliate. We criticize others because we are unhappy with ourselves.

Instead of focusing on what you don’t want and what you don’t like, put your attention on what you do want and like. Allow yourself to bask in how it feels when you create the beautiful loving relationship you want. Feel how proud you are of a son or a friend who has been working on turning his life around after a bout of challenging events. See how good it feels to be there for someone who needs your support.

Feel appreciation for everyone and everything in your life and recognize the miracles, contributions and synchronicities that present themselves to you everyday. While listening to soothing or energizing music or eating chocolate can elevate your mood, looking at personal photos can help you “feel significantly better.” (Prevention: Dec. 2010 Trial Issue, p.24) Tell others what you need emotionally. As we reach out to others, others will reach out to us.

Our minds can play tricks on us and lead us astray. When we hear lies, distortions or partial truths from our mind, other voices or beliefs of the past, we tend to believe them. We are convinced we are right and try to persuade others as though we know what’s best for them. We judge others and treat them according to our beliefs of right and wrong. Our minds can plant fears and doubts, rob us of our self-confidence and keep us from following our passion and finding happiness.

For more mental happiness, set your intent to speak in positive ways about yourself and others. Do things every day to make others laugh and feel better. Let go of adopting the fears, beliefs and judgments of others. Choose to believe what feels and sounds true and right for you and act accordingly. Think of something you can do or say with sincerity or levity that will make others feel happier. Then notice how good you feel.

The most important aspect of our beingness is our spirituality. I’m not referring to religion. I am speaking of our spiritual beliefs and our relationship between us and Spirit, our Source of All That Is. Some of my clients don’t realize that this relationship is often the source of their feeling alone in the world, unloved, unaccepted, incapable or unhappy. As we discover these deep old beliefs, we can work through the sense of believing in their abandonment and other issues and bring them to the light to be transformed. This acceptance of everyone and everything, just as it is, leads to happiness and joy.

To find happiness on a spiritual level, seek help from someone experienced in this area, like me, or a supportive, aware spiritual counselor or psychologist. The bottom line to spiritual healing is being able to accept and believe that you’re never abandoned, alone, unloved or imperfect no matter what has happened in your life. No one can take that from you or make you feel that way unless you allow it. Finding happiness can be as simple as changing your beliefs about the spiritual truth of who you are. You are perfect love and joy just as you are.

When you are ready to become the “Happy New You,” just start with some of these ideas or come up with your own. You can do one thing to start with or do several at once. When you find what feels good to you, stick with it for awhile. Note the changes that are making you feel happier, more confident and more loving and accepting of yourself and others. Smile and pat yourself on the back for being the wonderful you that you are!